I Don’t Want To Date You… Just Yet

To that one person out there…

I don’t want to date you if we are just driven with hormones and chemicals inside our bodies; instead I want to go out with you when both of us are sure that we are not controlled by just our emotions. We respect each other’s bodies by honoring it. We see each other beyond attraction alone.

I don’t want to date you when you’re not sure of yourself nor you’re not sure of us. Let’s bid goodbye to dating as something like trial and error. Let’s not see it as something that will decipher how sure we are of ourselves. Hence, let us first be saturated and secured on His love alone. Only in this way we’ll be able to say that we are certain of ourselves.

I don’t want to date you when you’re just after a heartbreak, because I want to give you that space to heal. I hope you’re giving yourself that kind of space too. I also hope that you will use that space to focus on God, on yourself, on your dreams, and on your family. So when the time comes that you’ll meet me, you already know that you are  complete.

I don’t want to date you if you’re not intentional, because being intentional means that you know your motive. And the motive behind dating and courtship is you see me as the person who’ll be with you and grow old with you.

I don’t want to date you if you think that your world should revolve around me, but I want to date you when you know that there is so much more to life. I want you to know that there’s so much beauty and wonder all around us. I hope you’ll see that soon enough.

I don’t want to date you if you still have dreams that will be compromised if you’re with me, instead I want you to use the time that you have now to explore, to try, to fail, and to learn.

I don’t want to date you when God is asking you to serve Him alone because I’m sure He’s asking you this for He is still pruning you and training you.

I don’t want to date you if I’ll just be getting your attention and focus away from God, but I want to date you when both of us will lead each other to Christ, and we love Him more than we love each other.

I don’t want to date you if you’re not yet ready to give up old (and bad) habits because true love also meant sacrifice. I believe that being in a relationship and being single are different responsibilities. In a relationship, you’ll not just think of yourself, but for the other person as well. So I wish you’ll be ready to give up selfish desires if you’ll be dating me.

I don’t want to date you if you think that I’ll change and fix you, nor will I complete you;I can’t and that’s not my job. God will do that for you. I want to date you because it meant to glorify God. The two of us will be persons who will go beyond  their egos. Two imperfect people who will strive to give a perfect love. And I do think that it will please God. So much.

I don’t want to date you just yet because I love you too much to grab this time that God has given you to become the person you are meant to be.

P.S. I don’t want to date a perfect guy and I know you’ll never be that.  No. I will date you because you’re man enough to pursue me and you’re godly enough to know that God is leading you to me. So please, let’s not be impatient. I know there are lonely and tiring nights. But I want to tell you that I exist, and God sees every little thing we do to honor Him. Let’s not give up on each other (even if we still don’t know each other yet). But I hope we strive to be as faithful as we can be. Just so you know, I believe in you. For that matter, for now, please wait.


(Hey. I’ve written another letter after this one. Read it here:  I Don’t Love You… Just Yet 🙂 )

(Credits to the owner of the photo)


87 thoughts on “I Don’t Want To Date You… Just Yet

  1. Thank you for sharing. indeed God`s time is perfect. God leading both people togethe is a match made in heave. Relationship bound in God`s love and will is forever.

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  2. This is so what I want to say right now especially to those who cannot (and I think will not) understands me. This is the very reason.
    Thanks to you!


  3. thanks for reminding me that we don’t have to rush on things and everything has its on time…God bless and keep inspiring everyone!:)


  4. Just how we, as girls, should be seeking to please God, primarily, in a relationship we will have or we already have, with the man that He perfectly prepared for us. I knew this before, but I failed in so many ways. But The Lord wants the best for us, and He still gave me my man after God’s own heart. By patiently waiting for God’s time and Him as The center of our Relationship, we will be tying the knot this year. ☺️
    Don’t rush love, girls. Don’t be burdened. Enjoy the Unfailing love of Jesus. Instead of just waiting for the right person, be the right person. Open your heart to God, serve Him and Be filled with His love until the man who deserves that love comes along.

    PS: Pray and read these verses.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7
    4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    It’ll help to fill all “Love” and change with your name. Are you patient, kind? And if you have the person in mind, put his name in it and start reflecting on God’s words. Be blessed!


  5. Same thoughts 🙂 If only I was able to say and hold on to this before dating my unbeliever ex-boyfriend who gave me heartbreak in the end. 😦 I hope I listened and followed God’s “no” so I could have prevented it. I hope everyone will keep this note in their hearts.


  6. “I don’t want to date you just yet because I love you too much to grab this time that God has given you to become the person you are meant to be.”

    Full of godly wisdom, character, perspective. There is indeed grace in waiting. Beautifully written. ♡


  7. This is so nice! Thanks for sharing! Truly, a man after God’s own heart should be the man we should pray for. It’s better to wait for the right one than to be in a wrong one.


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